Ben and I have been talking, and we are going with our gut feelings. Which are that we just don't want the amniocentesis. We will do the 20-week ultrasound and if there are obvious signs of downs syndrome we will deal with that when we come to it. If there are no signs, then either the baby is normal, or a less than 1 percent chance that it has mild downs. (That is the math we are working with unless the MD tells us differently. We're calling him today, I have the afternoon off of work with summer hours.)
With Tyler I was so worried that he be healthy, and so grateful that he was. After all these tests there is still the spectre of birth trauma or some other unknown. It feels as though there are so many hurdles to overcome in getting a healthy baby, and yet nature provides the world with healthy babies all the time! So I try to trust in that. Isn't it ironic that all these tests for downs are triggered by the mother being over 35, and yet there are no tests for autism with Ben turning 40 this year (the trigger age for men). But no matter what comes, there are resources for us, including family.
So, we are going to take our chances, as millions have done before us. Keep your fingers crossed.
And a great big hug to Magdalene whose words of support, and acceptance of whatever comes, are such a comfort to me this morning. Love you.
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